“RELATIONSHIP REFLECTION”

“RELATIONSHIP REFLECTION”

Relationships are important to me because it’s a true bond with someone I trust to be myself.  Knowing that I have someone who will tell me the truth no matter what is priceless. A relationship is someone I willingly choose to have in my life. I value my trusting, loving relationship I have with my friends and family.

MY DAUGHTER RAYVEN

MY DAUGHTER  JASMYNE

One of the positive relationships I have in my life would be Lee-Ann at my church. She is such a wonderful friend to me. I met her at church volunteering in children’s ministry. We connected immediately and have remained friends for three years.  She is always positive and always smiling.  I remember we both applied for the same job at church. When she realized I applied for the job she immediately told the hiring manager to give the position to me because I was more qualified. She said such amazing things about me during her interview.  She didn’t have to, but she knew my situation and was trying to help me. I have never met someone who would think of someone else in that manner. She is such a selfless person and would give her last if someone needed it. She is truly a blessing in my life and I hope I can be half as giving as she is.

Another positive relationship in my life is my life long friends Subrina.  She is someone I met when I was 4 years old. We have been friends every since and we still talk to this day.  I believe the reason our relationship has lasted so long because she is open and honest. I can tell her anything and it won’t be repeated. We go on vacations together and we never argue over anything. I don’t think we have ever argued in our 30 plus years of knowing each other.  We have such a positive relationship because we respect and value one another.

My daughter’s Rayven and Jasmyne would be a relationship I consider to be positive. Even though I am their mother, they respect what I say. I have learned the older they get the more I have to create a different type of relationship with them.  They have taught me to be more understanding and trusting of people. As a mother I want what is best for there well-being.  They have taught me to be more open to their feelings.  They are such amazing kids and I am blessed to have them as my daughters!!

There are a few challenges to maintain such relationships I listed above. My kids for example, we talk about everything. I have to respond to some questions as a mother and they don’t like what I have to say. I have to remind them that I am their mother and not their friend.  With my life-long friend Subrina we will go a few months without talking and that is hard. I had my kids early and she just started having kids. Our vacations together are basically non-existences now. We have to find time to talk during diaper changing, naps and play dates. 

Some special characteristics of these relationships are what bonded us together. Lee-Ann is completely opposite from me.  She like cats, animals, rock music and video games. I am completely the opposite and that is why we have a special relationship. Even though we are different we still have a lot in common. She talks to me about things I would never discuss and visa versa.  My children and I have a special partnership. I can truly say they are one of a kind, now my boys on the other hand…That’s a different story. But I think my girls and I really respect one another. 

My personal experiences are a huge part of how I react today. I have learned to listen, understand and accept a person for who they are. Appling what I have learned to my childhood profession would be invaluable.  Throughout the years of my life I have learned to accept people for who they are and add to enhance their life. My personal relationships have taught me not to be bias of someone. If I did not accept people for who they are I would miss out on so many wonderful relationships I have in my life.